Tuesday, March 5, 2013

with big spaghetti comes great confidence

I think it was Voltaire who said that. Or something along those lines, atleast. Can't be bothered with no pesky details, can we now?

First and foremost, SPAGHETTI

Because this is my blog, and I can.

Yes, those are sausages, impaled on spaghetti sticks. I saw someone on the internet do it, so I figured, why the fark not? I'm not going to write some giant cooking 101 here, it's not the time nor the place, but just chop some sausages, stick a bunch of spaghetti in it, add salt and cook for like ten minutes (Lid on ;) ). When done, sprinkle some black pepper on it, and serve with ketchup. Simple. Delicious. Having written a recipe, I am now officially multitalented.

As I said, I nicked this off some internet thing... That brings me to something else I've wanted to talk about for a while now. Confidence. As portrayed online.

I'm not talking about keyboard-warriors, or whatever. I frequent this internet forum (Yes, I'm one of those people.), and it's full of sad individuals never to touch a titty or grab an arse. Loners, in short. There was this thread, oh, and thats what I'm going to rant about here, this thread, where people were whining about girls dating jerks. I guess, this entry could serve as a response to that thread, rather than be just another science and art entry. It also came up while chatting with some friends, so I figured it must be interesting.

So anyway, you often hear sad men say idiotic things like "Nice guys finish last", or "She's not interested because I'm too shy/not confident", or "I'm seriously too nice for her". What, the hell, guys. This misconception, it just never bears truth. Ever, and you cant keep thinking this way.

First off, saying she dissed your for a jerk is just you guys making yourselves look like complete tools by projecting your romantic failures on innocent women, who you've simply failed to woo. God, you can't have everything you want, because love is a team sport.

Second, arrogance and confidence are not to be confused. What defines a Jerk is to be arrogant. Confidence has nothing to do with that. Confidence comes from within, whereas arrogance is stolen pride. As a continuation on that, girls dont fucking like mean guys. Get your head straight, no one likes a jerk.

Third, yes, you're right. You might be too shy. She might say yes, if only you asked. But this is the confidence part. Shyness isnt actually the problem, lack of confidence that causes you to feel shy, is. Being shy in itself isnt a problem, Introverts go just as far in life as extroverts. But people who are not confident in themselves? erh.

Yes, this is a full on rant about insecurity.

Face it. No one wants to agree with a person who won't stand up for himself. No one wants to have a discussion with a person, who would rather just listen. No one thinks its beautiful to be insecure. No one will respect a man who will not say no. I realize this is harsh and somewhat narrow-minded, but that's just how it is.

Seriously, even if you dont feel confident, act confident. Much rather that, than be insecure. With one comes pity, the other respect. What I'll point out, though, is that humbleness is not the antithesis of confidence. Confidence without humbleness isn't cool, but neither is humbleness without confidence. To be socially healthy, you need a good bit of both.

Confidence is not about getting into relationships, it defines what people see in you. Your boss, co-worker, teacher, classmate, family, brother, sister, child, friend or foe. Its never about just getting the girl.

Quite enough writing for today, I think. I figured I would just go out of my way and post a picture of spaghetti for once, though that kind of escalated :P Anyhow, as a disclaimer, I'll just say that I do not consider myself a role-model. Ill admit, I never read the manual for women or some relationship 101, and I have no divine insight into the minds of women. God knows, fact is that most readers probably have more experience than I. I think people view me as a rather confident guy, arrogant even, maybe I dont know anything about being insecure, but I've had my lows, and I've been down, but it got better. I got better.

If you feel to disagree with me, as always, voice up.


  1. Well I didn't think this moment would arrive as soon as it did, but I feel I just have to make a quick comment on this most interesting blogg of yours;D
    I have read a few of the others but this one in particular sparked my interest(I mean Spagetti come on), and there is a few things I'd like to comment on.
    First, very well written, but I'm sure you already know that, but in case you were just a little unsure;)
    Second, the topic was truly interesting and well put together and although, like you said you were harsh, I too think it was called for, and I mostly, if not entirely agree with what you said.
    And last but not least, that spagetti looks absolutely scrumptious, I'll have to try that one day.
    Anyways great blogg as always, and sorry for the ridiculously long comment, but since it was my first, I'll excuse myself for taking some of your time.
    And until next time I'll find the need to share some of my thoughts on this blogg of yours, I bid you goodbye!

  2. I would say that your blog is getting more and more intriguing for every entry that you make. Your topics lately have been thought provoking and enlightening, not to mention that they give an interesting insight into what's on your mind. I honestly cannot wait to read more of these.

    In addition, I noticed that you have begun using apostrophes, although your old habit of not doing so still revealed itself a little ;)


  4. Thanks Alexander & Markus, really made my day! :P Truly, well appreciated.


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